You are talking with two people who are important to you. Each of you wants to act with "integrity", but the more you talk, you realize you mean completely different things by the word.

To one of you friends, it means this:

epistemic humility, a kind of curiosity, trust, honesty, groundedness

To another, it means this:

resting in power, a kind of embodiment, whimsicality, attunement, trust, self care, boldness, patience, groundedness

Can you describe a different form of integrity—one important to you—and distinguish it from these two? Can you describe it clearly, so that your friends might understand you?